I was recently asked this question: “Why does a loving God prohibit homosexual expression or other forms of sexuality?” I think this is a fair and honest question. There was a time in my own life that my answer would have been, “So that I can be happy and love who I want to love and be the person I want to be.” That sounds good, right? My happiness only revolved around me, my feelings and attractions.
Let’s start by considering God’s intent or purpose behind why He placed boundaries and guidelines around sexuality, marriage and gender. What would be His motivation by preventing same sex relationships? I believe that God is intentional in all He does and says. I think His motivation for any boundaries and guidelines is “ that all may go well with you.” In fact, this statement is listed eight times in the Bible. Biblical teachers and scholars say that if something is mentioned in the Bible more than twice, it is significant.
“So you shall keep His statutes and His commandments which I am giving you today, that it may go well with you and with your children after you, and that you may live long on the land which the LORD your God is giving you for all time.”
See also: Deuteronomy 5:16, 33; 6:3, 18; 12:28, Jeremiah 7:23, and Ephesians 6:23
Commentator David Guzik says this about this important statement:
“This is God’s motive in calling for obedience–that it might be well with us. Every command of God is rooted in love for us, not some obsessive desire for control, or mean-spirited attitude towards us.”
If we look at the Hebrew words for this statement, God is pronouncing a blessing of a long and satisfying life over us when we embrace Him and walk in obedience to His word in every aspect of our lives including our sexuality. If God says no to something then it is because it is not life giving, not His best for our lives. I think that those who struggle with same sex attractions often get side tracked by our very real feelings. As my pastor often says, “Feelings are real, but not reliable.” He goes on to say that God is faithful, God is good and God can be trusted. Let us be mindful that God wants all to go well for us in every aspect of our lives.
In my next post I will share about being created in God’s image.
Thanks for following my journey,
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